until you have children!
I read this story in a Pema Chodron book:
A long time ago, there was a Buddhist monk
who announced that he was going to leave the monastery,
retreat to a cave in the mountains
and not return until he perfected inner peace.
A year passed and a fellow monk decided to pay him a visit.
Upon his arrival to the cave, he bombarded the first monk with questions:
“How are you? Are you well? Are you hungry? Are you warm? Do you miss the monastery?
How is your practice going? Have you perfected inner peace?
Have you? Huh? Huh? Huh?”
On and on he went until finally the first monk shouted,
“YOUR DRIVING ME CRAZY LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!”
The visiting monk smiled and said,
“Oh. I see how your practice is coming along.”
Yep. That’s pretty much how it is.